Roughly 40% of physicians will marry another physician or healthcare professional, according to a survey of almost 5,000 physicians done by the American Medical Association (AMA) Insurance Agency Inc.

Why do some doctors not only date other doctors, but go on to marry them as well? Are physicians just naturally drawn to each other?

The answer, it seems, may be based more on practicality and convenience than on chemistry, pheromones, or anything even remotely romantic or sexy. Quite simply, relationships between doctors often begin because they work in close proximity and endure the same hardships. In other words, physicians are working in the trenches together during their long years of training and even afterwards. The bonds and friendship that are formed during this difficult period are strong and often—understandably—lead to romance.

Medical students, interns, and residents rarely have time to do much outside of medical school. Even after completing their many years of training, many doctors have little time for anything else but medicine and their careers. In medical school, for example, the rigors—and traumas—of the curriculum may be what throws doctors together. The long hours of training, long hours of studying, and complete lack of any extra time all contribute to a very narrow focus during these strenuous years. Who understands this better than a fellow physician-in-training?

Understandably, no one knows what a career in medicine entails and the hefty toll it exacts financially, physically, and emotionally better than a fellow physician. The psychological and emotional benefits of having a partner who understands the hardships and demands of a career in medicine can be inestimable.  

“As a vocation, medicine is so overwhelming that there is little time to do anything else. As we go through medical school we live, learn, play, and love together, and it can be difficult for others outside the profession to understand us. So it stands to reason that we tend to group together,” said Clare Gerada, a general practitioner in London, and former chair of the Royal College of General Practitioners, in an article exploring physician-physician relationships published in The BMJ.

But, doctor-doctor relationships also involve challenges.

For starters, maintaining a good work-life balance as a couple can be difficult. The demands of being on-call after hours, on weekends, and during holidays can take a toll. And juggling the on-call demands of two physicians is even more challenging. Finding time to relax and even socialize together can be tough.

“My husband can be called at 2 am, which means you both have broken sleep. And arranging holidays around two rotas is hard, especially at Christmas and New Year and in the summer months,” Liz O’Riordan, consultant breast surgeon, Ipswich, Suffolk, England, told The BMJ.

This story is contributed by Liz Meszaros and is a part of our Global Content Initiative, where we feature selected stories from our Global network which we believe would be most useful and informative to our doctor members.